i moved to new york because i really wanted to. i have always wanted to come back here. i was born here and it has always been in my heart. it was convenient for me to come because i was running away. i had to get out of where i was because i had gotten out of a relationship with someone who had moved on and i couldn't bear it if i had seen him with someone else, so i got out as soon as i could. it has now been 4 years and i have been all over the place visiting friends and family. my family has come to see me quite a few times. my friends on the other hand...not once has a friend come to visit me. not once. it is sad. it hurts my feelings. i have friends that always have visitors that they knew from college and stuff and everyone is always saying, "oh, you will get to meet her when she comes in february." and i do meet them, and they are nice, but you know what is so sad. i never have anyone to introduce to my friends here. they don't come to visit. i've been to visit all of them. it really makes me sad...
on to another subject. my friend, that is so in love with me. made me so mad today that i told him not to ever call me again. he hung up on me after screaming at me and telling me to shut up. i don't respond well to that. i don't do it to people and i don't ever expect it to be done to me. so, that's that. i won't have to worry about him anymore.
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I admit I have a hard time keeping in touch with people once I move on. It's hard to maintain relationships with people who are far away. On the other hand it's easy to maintain relationships with people who you have opportunity to see on a semi-regular basis. I'm so glad you ran to New York. If you didn't I would never have had the opportunity to share in relationship with you now.
I will co-sign with B-nice. It is sad that your friends won't come to visit. It will more sad for them when they realize that you have moved on, and you have a whole new set of friends. Not saying get rid of them as friends, but quit asking them to come and visit. If they want to see you, they know how to find you, and they know your space is always welcoming. If they don't, focus on the wonderful friendships you have in NYC!
And as far for that guy, good riddance. In my opinion, it takes too much energy to keep up with someone on that level who is not even in your vicinity. Out of sight, out of mind, girl. I'm telling you. You're better off. Think about it; why are you fighting with someone you never see? Bygones.
Co-sign with B-Nice and Dramaqueen. If you didn't move to NY, then we wouldn't have you, and I'm glad you moved to NY. As wonderful as you are, your friends back home are the ones who's really missing out. You're a good person to keep them as friends. I would've cut them off a long time ago. It's been 4 years and not one visit? Maybe you need to re-evaluate the friendships. I couldn't have a friend as good as you that moved away 4 years ago and never visit! Do you still consider them friends?
speaking as one of the offensive friends in question...not from college, but from high school...i have 3 friends whom i love just as much as i ever did and about as well as i could love anyone whom i have NEVER gone to visit since they moved away from Atlanta. i have never visited DQ...but it's not personal...it's New York...and i'm too lazy to be walking 40 blocks anywhere. wait, wait...let me tell the TRUTH i'm not walking 5 blocks anywhere. :) and the other friends...timing has just never been right...:)
now, on to the serious portion of my comment...after someone moves away from you, there is always the danger, for me, that the relationship we had in a certain place was meant for only that place. i think to myself 'movement means that the friendship may not translate in the new geography'. i dunno. everything i say reads like an excuse. so, i guess, forget what i have to say and screw old friends who haven't visited u in NY. but i would just like to say...it doesn't mean that they don't love you anymore. personally, i've never had the lute to go traipsing all over the country to visit ANYONE--even family.
i dunno. friends who don't visit their friends who move to NY are LOSERS!!! me included! spit on us! pull our hair! but then remember that u used to love us...and then know that EVENTUALLY anyone who really loves you will want to see you again. i think.
this topic has brought a plethora of ideas and opinions and i am so appreciative of everyone. divine, you are so right. i think that there is one friendship, in particular, that i really need to evaluate and see if it is one that was ever what i made it out to be. fuego, you have an excellent point also about having a friendship and it being applicable for that space in time. DQ, you help me to stomp on them when i want to be mad!!! :) and b-nice, thank you. i am happy for the relationship i share with you also. i guess it just hurts my feelings a little that i am not important enough in my friends eyes to make that trip for. the one friend i am thinking of has a good job and is not hurting for money. if she wanted to, she could come visit. it's just not that important, i guess. i do have other friends that have wanted to, but the timing wasn't right or the money wasn't right, so i understand that. i am not being unreasonable. it's just that i grew up with no friends. i don't mean that no one liked me, but what i mean is that i moved around a lot so the friends i made, i didn't keep. the only friends that i have ever had have been from college and sometimes i just get the feeling that once they don't see me anymore, they won't think of me anymore and they will just forget me. i am afraid i'll just disappear.
Where that cat live? Do I need to initiate swordplay? Oh and Cosign to everybody.
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